“That’s what Dreams are made of”


I had mentioned in an earlier post my love of music and that I started playing music at an early age. Well, 4th grade, when I became eligible to participate in my school’s music program.

I was digging through some old pictures over the weekend and was surprised by how many I found with me playing an instrument. Not just me; other family members too. It never occurred to me that I came from a musical family until just a few days ago. It’s been just “one of those things my family does.”

That's me with the licorice stick

They say musicians get all the girls...

So, yeah, I started with the clarinet. My grandfather introduced me to the likes of Glenn Miller and Pete Fountain. I didn’t care if listening to old swing music wasn’t cool. I dug it.

I had a private teacher and entered the NYSMA (New York State Music Association) competitions every year and earned first place a number of times. Practicing for those competitions was boring, so I played “Moonlight Serenade” and “Whipped Cream” instead of the works of Carl Maria von Weber. And when I could finally play that slinky intro to “Rhapsody in Blue” by George Gershwin I knew I found what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.

I was going to be a musician.

But I wasn’t going to play the clarinet to do it. No freakin’ way.

I was going to play the sax.

Jammin' some "In the Mood"

I played clarinet in the school’s concert band and the orchestra. I played sax in the school’s jazz and pep bands. It was fun. And I was good at it.

As the years went on, I started to not like what I was doing. I was one of the best in school (and in some parts of the state, having been chosen to be in the All-State band a number of years) and I was starting to feel pressure. Pressure to maintain a high level of performance. I was entering my teen years and pressure from adults was anathema.

In 1986, Van Halen released an album with a new lead singer called “5150.” The new singer was, of course, Sammy Hagar, and Van Halen became one of the most popular bands in the world.

Oh yeah. They got the girls.

I had a cassette tape of that album. Then I had a second, because the first one broke from being played too much.

Then a third.

A fourth.

Screw this clarinet and saxophone bullcrap, I said to myself, Electric guitar is where I wanna be.

So, I asked for one for Christmas. My parents told me only if I buy it myself.

Huh. Ok.

So I did.

I saved up $90 and bought a cheap guitar from Service Merchandise. (Remember them?)

Then I wrapped it up and put it under the tree per my agreement with my parents that not only was I to buy it myself, I also had to wait until Christmas to use it.

I know, right?

Me on the left with my "Xmas present."

I stopped listening to Miller and Fountain. Van Halen, Floyd, Hendrix, Zeppelin and Clapton took their place.

I still wanted to be a musician for a living. The end of high school was approaching and thoughts of college and what I would study were not uncommon. I decided to major in English Lit and minor in Music.

I had dreams.

I was gonna go somewhere.

...and then this happened.

There was a reason Nancy Reagan started the “Just Say No” campaign.

I began college in the fall just after high school and was home - permanently - before Thanksgiving the same year.

So, I did what any one in my place would have done.

I enlisted in the Navy…

Seaman Storch

…and was discharged Other Than Honorably for going AWOL.

Three times.

Ok, wow. This was supposed to be a post about playing music.

And play music I did.

And still do.

I’ve owned a number of guitars over the years – the clarinet went to my sister and I think my parents still have the saxophone in their house somewhere.

I’ve played in a few bands – that went nowhere.

Currently, I have a friend who also plays. We get together from time to time and jam out some blues, ZZ Top and such. It’s fun, but it’s not what my dream was. I think that dream is dead.

All I can do is have fun with what I’ve got – A good friend to play music with occasionally.

My youngest son has shown an affinity for music. He can play major scales on a piano by finding the sounds. He can also find thirds and fifths. He can sing in tune and has a great sense of rhythm.

He told me he wants to learn how to play the violin.

If he does pursue that, I’ll encourage him, but not push him. My parents pushed me, and I pushed back – loosing the joy I once had. I’ll encourage my boy, I’ll play along with him and we’ll make beautiful music.

Together.

I think that’s a better dream. Don’t you?

Here’s the video I saw on MTV during the summer of ’86. The one about dreams that made me want to pick up a guitar and become a rockstar.

A new name, but the same great people!

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34 thoughts on ““That’s what Dreams are made of”

  1. I was a saxophone player as well. I placed first in competitions and competed against high schoolers when I was in the sixth grade. Somewhere about my junior year, I just lost interest. I don’t even remember why. I was by far the best in my school, but just didn’t want to do it any more. I just stopped being fun.

  2. Maybe the dream is just different now? It seems you got the girl and your kids tell you what they want and you know enough to encourage them without pressuring them…

    You can always jam and put it on YouTube….then you will be famous:)

    I always wanted to sing in a band and, well, I instead sing in jam sessions with my friends or rock a Karaoke machine….the dream is different but at least some part of me gets to enjoy something I am reasonably decent at!:)

  3. I don’t know, dude… I feel ya. I struggle to make time for music and I think my life suffers for it. Craig, my sister, and I are getting together to record a dozen Statler Brothers tunes for Mother’s Day with our instruments and Craig’s new recording software. It’s like coming out of the desert to an oasis, but there’s bittersweetness in the regrets–piano lessons at age 5, the saxophone I didn’t have the guts to truly work on, and more. So we pick up where we left off and look for enjoyment, eh? I find it still feels good if I give it a chance.

  4. Impressive. I have never played a single instrument. Unless you could video games like Rock Band. So all of my husbands (uh, I’ve just had 2) have been highly musical and I figure it is because I see something in them that I wished I had — music! Also, AWOL? Weren’t you pooping yourself over that? geez risk taker :)

  5. I agree with Jamie’s comment… there are lots of stories still to tell from this post. I am a musician myself (well – sorta… played the string bass in HS and College Orchestra and Jazz bands and still dabble in piano) I totally agree that you shouldn’t push you kid too much. Over doing it can be overboard… but sharing your love with music with you child – priceless.

    • I actually got him a mini guitar and a ukelele. He doesn’t do much with them other than strum open chords – so I tuned the guitar to a non-standard open-G tuning and now we jam some blues in the key of G! :-)

  6. Okay wow, this was a great post…it was about music, and so much more.
    When I was a teen I put down my violin. I’d gotten a four year scholarship to play first-string violin in a pretty prestigious music school, which i turned down because I wanted to go to a co-ed school. Biggest mistake of my life, putting it down. So when i had kids I decided quite consciously I’d live through them and that’s just what I’ve done, they started violin just before their 4th birthday and they are becoming quite good at it, and piano (jazz and blues). They are, by GOD, going to be musicians – maybe in the foreground of their lives, maybe just the backdrop – but I’ve totally brainwashed ‘em that they can’t put down their instruments til they are 101. Do I push? You bet. Do I feel guilty about it? No – because Dr. Suzuki says, there will come a time – not if – WHEN – your kids are between the ages of 9 and 11 that they will BEG you to stop their music. Your job as a parent is to guide them through this phase to the other side, because every single one of those kids come back years later and say to their teacher, or their parent, “Why did you let me stop?” – and they are pissed because they feel looking back – cheated. I am a huge, huge proponent of music in kids’ lives and I love to see parents like you inspiring their kids. Last thing – my nephew in Ireland played classical trumpet as a kid, then in his teens took up guitar, then electric guitar. This kid was a stellar classical trumpet player – but ends up now that he’s 20 something, he is in a death-metal band! Having the time of his life. I love the sax. Anyway sorry for blathering on here but music is definitely a topic i love!

    • You TURNED DOWN A 4 YEAR SCHOLARSHIP?! Shame on you!
      I’m going to encourage and guide my boy but I am not, repeat not, going to stand over him and make him practice a certain amount of time everyday. I am going to make sure he enjoys it and never loses his love for it.

  7. All those experiences, from the musical ones to the “asides” you mention, are where stories come from! Just think what a boring writer you’d be if you’d never done anything except your homework. :D

    • A couple of people have mentioned the asides in this post and honestly, I didn’t think anything of it. Too close to the source, I guess.

      I suppose I should look at those events closer and perhaps write a few posts about them. We’ll see.

  8. Good plan with your son. My parents pushed me, and I quit right away. My mom was a music major, so I think that factored in. Have I mentioned yet that I LOVE the name of your blog? I think it every time I come by here, and I always chuckle :)

  9. My husband and I are the least bit musical, however our two girls (2 & nearly 4) love music, to the point the older one asked for a drum kit, accordian, & turntable for Christmas! Santa brought the drum kit. We’re not really pushing it, but encouraging, and I’m still hoping that the music will stay.

  10. I always wanted to play the guitar, and took lessons for a spell, but I couldn’t tune it to save my life and that was pretty much the end of things. Took piano for a while, too. Liked it, but never practiced. Not a huge success. In retrospect I wish I could play both. Or either. Maybe my Little Dude will. My best instrument was always the radio anyway.

    I’d love to hear more about your college and Navy experiences. I bet there are some great stories there.

  11. I’m sorry you were Discharged Other Than Honorably from the Navy. Three times. Ouch.

    Anyhoo, music has always been an important part of my life, too. I played piano for nine years, but mainly I just love listening to it. All kinds of music. I’m not hip, nor do I know who the hip or trendy bands are. That whole emo movement? I didn’t get it. I just like what I like, and I know what I like when I hear it.

    And ‘Dreams’ is my favorite Van Halen song. Or maybe ‘Dance the Night Away.’ I love them both.

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